Types. We have GOT to abandon them, right now. In fact, we have to give up the ”type” notion all together. When I first moved to the city from a small mountain town, I would scan bars for the type I was used to: toques, flannels, and long, greasy hair. Yep. That was my type. However, these mythical creatures did not exist in my new environment and I ended up searched for them among a sea of V-necks and biceps.
Basically, we’d rather send out casting calls for a TINY demographic of people, than giving up these silly regulations. Am I the only one seeing the problem with this?
1. It May Be a Total Crap Shoot:
As I experienced, the type I was looking for, basically didn’t exist in my new setting. When changing locations, the inhabitants change as well. Crazy obvi, right? Why would you expect to find a ski-bum in a big city? Or a successful business-type in a small town? It’s just not a thing, so take a look around and re-adjust.
2. Making the Same Mistake Twice:
Ever considered that if you’re scoping for a certain type, it might be to find a carbon copy of a past love? There’s a reason why it didn’t work the first time around, so why hit replay? Go for something different, something very, very different. Run actually, and don’t look back.
3. The Fakers:
Just because someone looks the part of what you’re after, doesn’t mean their personalities match. Anyone can throw on a suit or a flannel shirt, but clothes don’t define character. If appearances are what you’re going for, baby, you’ll dine with the one trying to fit in, not the one who actually is.
Having a type is restrictive and counterproductive; just quit it! Deep down, you know that no matter what makes it on to your list, if someone makes you swoon, you’ll swoon out of control. How often do we hear: “I know, they’re not usually my type but…”
Be that person. Stop putting yourself on a pedestal, assuming you deserve to have your pick out of the entire human race, and then you’ll see.
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About Britanny Burr
Britanny is from Canmore, Alberta, and attended University in Calgary where she received a Bachelor of Arts in English. She now lives in Montreal, and works as a freelance writer. She loves to do yoga, dance, write, read, and laugh!